Fearfully and Wonderfully Made

My life does not follow your rules. Just as your life does not follow my rules. So much money is made off of creating programs that one follows step by step to the letter to achieve a one desired outcome.

If I follow your program for happiness, for health, for healing and it Just doesn’t work for me, that means that there is something wrong with me right? This program has helped all of these people so there must be Some stock in it right? Obviously, it works right? well, it didn’t work for me, SO I must be broken right? Or is the program broken? It can’t be me.

Why does it have to be broken? Why do we have to be broken? Why does your life have to follow my rules? It doesn’t. In fact, it can’t.

The idea that my life has to fit in your box or that your life has to fit in my box is unrealistic insanity. That’s why there are so many programs out there and why most of them are SO different.

This isn’t a bad thing though! They all carry some credibility or they wouldn’t have made it as far as they have.

The problem is, you are not a type, You do not fit into someone else’s box.

In Jeremiah I:5, The Lord Says to Jeremiah, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you, Before you were born, I set you apart…” Not one of us is the same, we are set apart by God and cheated as individuals. Individuals who have their own lives, their own experiences, their own minds which were “ … fearfully and wonderfully made…” (Psalm 139: 14 NIV).

All of these different mollies and formulas for a healthy and happy life are proof of that fact. These differences are not a curse, but a blessing to use to find what works for you as an individual find what fits in your life and what doesn’t.

Life is not one Size fits all. One of the benefits of marrying someone who is your polar opposite has taught me that beyond a shadow of a doubt. He hits burnout when he has too much to do, I hit burnout when I don’t have enough to do. What works for me, what helps me is not going to work for him and vice versa. The more you research and toy, the more you find what works and what doesn’t and the closer you are to living life as God intended.

Let go of what you think you know and allow God to show you what he intended for you.

Good Luck, God Bless

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Thoughts and Actions

For the last week and a half, my house has been a disaster zone. I’ve worked the last 12 days in a row, today is my only day off before going back tomorrow, and I’ve been facing burn out at a level that I haven’t in a very long time.

I bought food, but i didn’t want to make it, I still made it but it was half hearted and half assed so it wasn’t very good. My laundry was clean but unfolded and I avoided my dishwasher because switching dishwasher detergent left my dishes with a powdery residue that left me feeling like a failure.

All I wanted to do was sleep so that is what I did and left everything to keep. I think that was part of the problem. I just Left everything.

When I Leave everything sit, if i think about doing it, the idea of starting leaves me feeling very overwhelmed so I avoid it. Which Just leads to a downward spiral of self loathing and depression.

Since today is my day off, I decided to GET EVERYTHING DONE and I did. I attacked every mess I could find in my house.

I started early because I know that mid morning is the time when I am most motivated to clean. Everything got done and I mean everything. Bathroom, kitchen, dishes, vacuuming, laundry, dusting, all done by 10:30 AM. .

My mood at first was foul. Conversations that turned to arguments that never happened and would never happen played over in my head. Definitely not healthy, so whenever I noticed my thoughts would go there, I would tell myself, “This isn’t helping.” And then ask God “Heavenly father, still my anger.” Then I’d find something positive to think like how good it’s going to having a clean house. I would think about guests coming over and how much more they would enjoy visiting in my clean house. How much I enjoyed freshly folded laundry even though I’m not a fan of folding it. By the time I was done with my chores, my mood was jovial.

Next order of business, meals. My husband likes “Easy meals.” I find them expensive and unhealthy. We also work different shifts. He works nights and I work days which makes meal time together very difficult. This has caused some discord between us so then we came up with the idea that I could pre make meals that can be microwaved and eaten at will.

I only Cook a few days a week and both of us are happy for it. This morning I made 6 meals which counts for about 2 days for us. That’s 2 days neither of us have to worry about food. 2 days of less stress for me and 2 days that I am not overwhelmed. While I was cooking them, l would think about those things which kept my good mood going.

Your thoughts matter. Your actions matter. You are in control both. The morning I had of is proof that I hope aids and empowers you.

Good Luck, God Bless